The Private School Interview: A Former Dean’s Complete Guide

Private School Interview Questions, Decoded

Private school interview questions are more predictable than parents expect. Nearly every interview draws from the same core set about your child’s life, school experience, interests, and hopes, and not one of them has a right answer. I asked versions of these questions across twenty years of admissions interviews, and every one is a door, not a test item: the interviewer isn’t scoring what comes through it, they’re hoping a real kid does. This page decodes the set, what each question is actually asking, so you can prepare your child without scripting them.

What are private school interviewers really asking?

The decode principle. Behind every question on this page sits the same real question: who are you, and what’s it like to talk with you? “Tell me about yourself” isn’t requesting a résumé. One true sentence (“I really like figuring out how things work”) beats a list of activities. “Why do you want to come here?” isn’t testing research. It’s listening for whether any honest reason exists. Once you hear the questions this way, preparing your child stops meaning “better answers” and starts meaning “more comfortable truth.”

What questions are asked in a private school interview?

The four families of questions. About your child (yourself, your family, your friends); about school (favorite subject, least favorite, a teacher they’d remember); about interests (what they do outside class, a book they’ve read, what they’d change about the world); and, the part kids don’t expect, their questions for the interviewer, where genuine curiosity (“what do kids do at lunch?”) outscores anything clever. Each family, and the fifteen most common questions inside them, gets a full decode in the articles below.

Are there trick questions in a private school interview?

The ones parents worry about are the safest. “What’s your least favorite subject?” is not a trap: “math isn’t my favorite, but I’m getting better” sounds honest and self-aware, while a kid who claims to love everything sounds coached. “What would you change about the world?” rewards the simple and believable over the profound. One steer worth knowing on the interests questions: enthusiasm is the asset, and the subject almost doesn’t matter. With one exception: “I play video games” is not what a school wants to hear. If that’s your child’s honest first answer, reach for the next true thing. The sport, the project, the series they can’t put down, and aim the enthusiasm there.

How do you prepare a child for interview questions without scripting?

How to prepare without scripting. Scripts collapse on the first follow-up, and a child reciting isn’t in the conversation. Instead: talk through the question families conversationally, teach the two habits that cover almost everything: “yes, and” for expanding a true answer, “let me think about that for a second” for the blank moment, and stop when your child can handle the families comfortably, not perfectly. About a paragraph out loud is the right size for any answer: the answer, one reason or example, then stop.

Questions parents ask

Should my child memorize answers to these?

No. Memorized answers pattern-match and collapse on follow-ups, and interviewers can always tell. Familiarity with the question families, plus the two recovery habits, beats any script.

What’s the best question for my child to ask the interviewer?

A real one. “What do kids do at lunch?” from an eleven-year-old tells the interviewer more than any rehearsed line. Curiosity is the signal, not sophistication.

What if my child’s honest answer seems too small?

Small and true wins. “I’d make it so animals didn’t get hurt” is exactly right from an eight-year-old. Don’t inflate answers into something impressive; believable beats impressive every time.

In this part of the guide

  • 'Tell Me About Yourself': What This Question Is Really Asking a Child · publishing soon
  • ‘Why Do You Want to Come to This School?’: Helping a Child Answer Honestly · publishing soon
  • 'What's Your Least Favorite Subject?' Is Not a Trap · publishing soon
  • ‘Do You Have Any Questions for Me?’: Why Curiosity Beats Clever · publishing soon
  • ‘What Would You Change About the World?’: Believable Beats Impressive · publishing soon
  • ‘Tell Me About a Book You’ve Read’: What a Real Answer Sounds Like
  • ‘Tell Me About Your Friends’: What One Real Friendship Says · publishing soon
  • The 15 Most Common Private School Interview Questions, Decoded · publishing soon

← Back to the complete guide

Free guide

What They're Really Asking

I decoded the 15 questions your child will likely hear: what interviewers are really listening for, and the prep mistake to avoid on each. It's free.

Free. No scripts. Unsubscribe anytime.